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Self love is not selfishness


"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection," said Buddha. Our self-centred lives may suggest we love ourselves rather well. Yet, despite pampering ourselves with the best of what life has to offer, we still suffer from sadness, despair, anger, loneliness, incompleteness, rejection, helplessness and bitterness. The attention we lavish upon ourselves disproves that we dont love ourselves enough. However, our insatiate longing for harmony and happiness means that we dont love ourselves the right way.

 Given our ethical conditioning, many balk at the overt thought of self-love, even though it is nearly impossible for it not to exist. This is because we confuse self-love with selfish disregard for others. The benign state of self-love is unconditional self-acceptance— which does not in any way preclude love for others—and is therefore not the same as its malignant form,  narcissism.  Loving oneself is the prerequisite for loving others and for others to love us. We are made by our reactions -- to people and situations -- extensions of our own feelings and thoughts.

Our over-dependence on external adulation and reassurances leaves us feeling anxious, sceptical and powerless, corroding self-value and pushing us so hard to stay ahead that the pressures and compulsions of performance eclipse the joy of being. Even in public life, our role models happen to be people whose sense of self-importance is driven more by their misled egos than affectionate views of their real selves.  Ego is what separates us from the rest of the universe. . Our ego invariably finds an expression in pride and haughtiness and is often what makes us our worst enemies.

It must therefore not be given a free rein to block out our soul and world-view. Instead, it should be acknowledged and befriended to allow us to extricate ourselves from its subservience and transform its energy into a reinvigorating force of existence that helps us connect with our aspired self and see the other facet of spirit.  Whatever the medium—overcoming the control-freak in us, taking on our fears and insecurities, or dealing positively with what annoys us—this can keep us from squandering our energies on brooding over insignificant things that makes us continually looking for someone to blame.

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" जीवन में उतारने वाली जानकारी देने के लिए धन्यवाद । कई लोग तो इस संबंध में कुछ जानते ही नहीं है । ऐसे लोगों के लिए यह अत्यन्त शिक्षा प्रद जानकारी है ।"
Posted By:  संतोष ठाकुर
"om namh shivay..."
Posted By:  krishna
"guruji mein shri balaji ki pooja karta hun krishna muje pyare lagte lekin fir mein kahi se ya mandir mein jata hun to lagta hai har bhagwan ko importance do aur ap muje mandir aur gar ki poja bidi bataye aur nakartmak vichar god ke parti na aaye"
Posted By:  vikaskrishnadas
"वास्तु टिप्स बताएँ ? "
""jai maa laxmiji""
Posted By:  Tribhuwan Agrasen
"यह बात बिल्कुल सत्य है कि जब तक हम अपने मन को निर्मल एवँ पबित्र नही करते तब तक कोई भी उपदेश ब्यर्थ है"
Posted By:  ओम प्रकाश तिवारी
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